In a totally digital world, it becomes easy to constantly capture your daily grind and memories via Snapchat, Twitter and selfie mode, and doing what I do I feel a bit too attached to my phone sometimes; however for a while now I’ve noticed myself ‘forgetting’ to take a photo or vlog, either consciously or unconsciously because I’m too busy or cba (because sometimes, you really do cba to vlog on your day off – always the day when you make the nicest meal too) or simply put – I’m enjoying the moment.
There is a pressure I feel often to constantly be updating, shouting out on social and hashtagging the life out my photos, to document what I do daily when frequently all I want to do is focus on the now and keep it fresh in my mind to look back on for my own happiness.
For example, I did a job last week where I got to cross paths with a lot of online creators and people I’ve watched for years, standing less than 5ft away from most of them and even hugging one or two, but I was also aware that the place I was in was surrounding their privacy, their community, spending time together away from eyes and iPhones being waved at them for pictures.
It reiterated a thought I’d been having the last year or so, of what you would do if you met someone you had read or watched for a long time; I’ve come to the conclusion that out of respect and just wanting to take the moment for myself, I wouldn’t ask for a photo straight off, because I’d rather been seen as a friend or fellow creative type who just wants to share admiration for their work and know full well in my mind, I got to have this experience for myself and forgo the ‘pictures or it didn’t happen’ line we’ve been pulling the last 5 years.
It’s the same with friends – I don’t get to see my friends often, and when we do meet up we just want to chat, catch up, not feel obliged to take a million selfies or vlog it all because, hey, a tweet ain’t worth poop emoji these days right? Not saying I don’t want to, we just all forget long enough that our makeup has smooshed, the sun has gone down and ‘man I got a train to catch let me WhatsApp you when I get home to let you know I’m safe k?’ And it’s okay, because we got to hang out, we have made our memories and it means less time until the next meeting where we will 100% try 90% to remember to get at least one snap.
Asking for a photo has gone from a drunken house party snap with your pals to almost a validation of doing something with someone somewhere, and don’t get me wrong I am all for snapping away when I can, it just makes me nervous, scared even of asking for a snap even with my best friends incase it seems for show. I will always love having photos to look back on, whether on Facebook or in a scrapbook, but knowing you have that unique memory between yourself and people you know, love, admire or respect all for yourself, that’s often worth more than 100 selfies.
What’s your view on asking for photos with people? Would you rather have a chat with someone you admire or go straight for a snapchat filter?
Lots of Love,
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